Tell Tale Signs??? 12-24 Months

After T1's 1st birthday, DP and I decided to try for another baby.  T1 was doing well but there were still some niggles at the back of my mind regarding his development.  As T1 was my first baby, of course I didn't really have a reference to what was 'normal' development and what might be different to the norm.  I knew some child development theory from books and what I knew from work.  I relied on chatting to my friends who had older children and work colleagues for advice.  They told me that it probably wasn't much to worry about and that T1 was so young to be worrying about his development too much.  T1 did lots of the normal development stuff but I guess it might be useful to share some of the possible early tell tale signs here:

• T1 was happy to go to any adult at any time to be looked after, he didn't seem to show the usual separation anxiety that babies have, except when I left him alone with other babies
• At around the 18 month mark, he became very fussy with food having eaten anything and everything before then
• From around 12 months, T1 seemed to only be interested in certain parts of toys e.g. the wheels or looking at the screws on the back of a toy

I discussed my concerns with DP who thought that T1 was fine and that given the work that I do, I was probably over analysing the situation.  I had Autsim Spectrum Disorder or Asperger's Syndrome in mind.  That was tricky for me to deal with, of course anyone can put a child into a certain box if they wanted to.  I tried to remain neutral and knew that he would display more differences in his development in the next year if my 'mothers instinct' was to be correct.